Elayne Lane Therapy
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Elayne Lane 
The last thing I expected to find at the finish line of a mountain bike race was my future career. Nearly thirty years ago, if someone had told me that one day I would become a massage therapist, I would have laughed. It simply wasn’t something I could ever have imagined for myself. Back then … Read more
How to Step Out of the Drama Triangle Understanding the Drama Triangle Many relationship conflicts follow a predictable pattern called the Drama Triangle. It was first described by psychologist Stephen Karpman. He said people unconsciously move between three roles when stress or conflict appears. These roles are: Victim – Poor me Rescuer – Let me fix this … Read more
Looking After Your Kidneys This Winter As I was revisiting some of my old notes on traditional Chinese medicine recently, I was reminded how much importance was placed on caring for the kidneys during winter. We often think of our kidneys simply as organs that filter our blood, but in traditional Chinese medicine they are … Read more
When Fear Gets Louder As I continued reading through my old notes on the Water Element and Winter, I came across an idea that immediately made sense to me. Have you ever noticed that when you’re tired, everything feels a little harder? Perhaps you haven’t been sleeping well. Life has been particularly busy, you’ve been … Read more
Over the past few weeks in our Winter Wellness Series, we’ve explored winter as a season of restoration and looked at how fear can sometimes become louder when we’re tired, stressed or depleted. This week I’d like to talk about something we often take for granted until it starts demanding our attention — our bones. … Read more
The Gift Hidden Inside Winter Today is the first day of winter here in New Zealand. Recently, while sorting through some old notes from my studies, I came across some fascinating teachings about winter from the ancient Chinese. I’ve always been struck by how closely they observed the natural world, and as I reread my … Read more
Learn how to overcome procrastination by understanding resistance, shifting your state, and using hypnosis to change habits at the root.
How to Break a Habit Using 6-Step Tapping (A Simple, Gentle Method) Introduction: Why Habits Feel So Hard to Break If you’ve ever tried to break a habit — whether it’s smoking, vaping, emotional eating, scrolling, or another automatic behaviour — you’ll know it’s rarely about willpower. Habits live in the subconscious and nervous system. … Read more
My relationship is going flat,” my friend confessed. She explained that everything was mostly okay—they were a great team, managing life, work, and family together. But something was missing. “I just don’t feel the spark anymore,” she admitted, her voice filled with longing. As we talked, it became clear: intimacy and connection had quietly slipped away. “I asked … Read more